Rose is my first child, and I don't want people to think badly of me for cutting it, but I don't believe children should have long hair. Sure, she thinks she doesn't want it cut short, but she'll soon get used to it.
Should I cut it? I mean to a kinda pixie cut, so it wouldn't be hanging in her eyes all the time. And it will be easier for me, and she won't get nits! It's all good?
And lastly, how shall I go about it? She isn't too keen on cutting it short, but I can persuade her, can't I? What's the best way of going about it? If that fails, can I just cut it anyway?I have a 6 year old daughter with long hair, but it annoys me having to brush it- I want to cut it short?
In theory, since you're the mother, and she's the child, you do have the right to decide how to do her hair.
In reality, though, your daughter has got to live with the hair style...and you have to live with your daughter.
Sure, you want to put it in a style that may be easy for you to care for, but you also want to have a style to where she'll feel pretty. Remember, kids can sometimes be very cruel to other kids, so you don't want to set her up to be made fun of in school because of having hair that may be easy care but will make her feel unattractive or make her stand out too differently from the other kids. I know how this feels from when I was a child and instead of being allowed to have my hair natural or in braids, I had to deal with those old-time 1950s ';greasy press and curl'; hair styles where a little black girl couldn't run and play like the other kids for fear her hair would revert back to its natural state and mom would whip you for ';ruining'; hair that cost her 1/3 of her pay check to achieve for you and two sisters.
Short hair can be cute and appropriate for a young girl, and just because it's short, it doesn't have to look like a ';boys'; hairstyle. There are lots of really adorable barettes and hairbands out there to dress it up with...but there are also other easy care styles just above the shoulders that are out there, too... Why not google hair styles for little girls or children and get some ideas, or just visit a beauty salon for a consultation?
Some ways to help her accept a hairstyle change? If you do this decision together, say make a special day of it where you go to the salon, look at the style books together, let her pick out a style (within reason) and maybe go out to lunch or a movie together afterwards...she'll feel ';all grown up'; and perhaps accept the new hairstyle a bit more...and maybe if you're getting your hair done at the same time, that may make her feel more comfortable. Lots of salons/day spas do mother/daughter type stuff all the time and a good stylist knows how to work with children.
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I just saw the picture. Now I have very short hair and even I think that cut is extreme for a little girl.
Come on, have a heart. As the mother of a daughter, I GUARANTEE that she's going to get made fun of in school having that short of hair...and if you insist on cutting it that short, it will feel more like you're punishing her for having long hair.
Please, for the sake of her self-esteem, consider keep the hair at least shoulder length and just deal with it! It's not her hairstyle that needs to be changed...it's your attitude towards it!
Do you really want her to grow up with feeling of low self-worth, feeling like she's ';ugly'; or she can't do anything with her hair because of the messages you're sending about her hair? Well, then don't sow the seeds for that with an ';I-can't-be-bothered'; sort of thing.
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Now here's an idea... why not let her have the long hair, but put it in braids?I have a 6 year old daughter with long hair, but it annoys me having to brush it- I want to cut it short?
My daughters used have waist length hair until my wife took our daughtes to barber shop to their waist length hair very short
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I won't blame you. My daughter has very long hair, eventho i like it but it still a hassel sometimes to take care of it. If you think you are really spending too much unnecessary time to take care of her hair, just cut it short. I think it is their choice to grow it long or short if they are old enough to take care of it herself.
I honestly think she's old enough to make that decision for herself. Let her choose to cut it and how short. I just think if you do it for you...she'll hold a grudge against you for that. I would just leave it alone, let her choose to cut it if she wants. If she was younger, I'd say go for it, but she's a ';girl';. Not a ';baby or toddler';. Let her choose...
That is a horrible haircut, I'm sorry but poor kid! She's going to look like a boy!
My three year old girl has hair like this:http://www.usmagazine.com/files/brad-pitt-shiloh-b.jpg
and I think any of these is a nice haircut for a 6 year old girl: http://www.next.co.uk/shopping/children/oldergirls/1/8
Long hair looks so beautiful and pretty.
Don't cut it short!!
She'll hate you for life!!
If you want to get stress off yourself, get Rose her own hairbrush and let her brush her own hair, then you put it in braids, pigtails, ponytails.
I agree with your daughter here
That picture looks like a boy!
I can't believe it's a girl!!
Ewwww
Children shouldn't have long hair, I know. It's a disruption to schoolwork, playing, everything.
I know you will cut it. It's the adrenaline. You'll want it shorter than the picture though. Shave it when she's asleep. Seeing stubble on your daughters head will be really funny!
A lot of people cut their young girls hair just for the reasons you are stating. My daughter is 7 and her hair comes to about 4 inches from her butt. I wouldn't trade the time we spend every day brushing it out. We talk and joke and its just fun. Her hair is thick and wavy so its not easy.
I still keep my daughter at shoulder Length or a bit shorter
I am not a big fan of long or short hair on a child
This length is in the middle, and it's easy to take care of, and you can still do pony tails, braids and pig tails
bribe her with a big gift, then take her to cartoon cuts.
Promise her a build a bear or something.
She can have long hair when she can take care of it herself.
Teach her to brush her own hair and put it in a ponytail herself. Then let her decide how she wants her hair.
All the best.
if you can't take care of it for her then cut it.
4-5 inches only?
It's her hair if she wants it cut, cut it
But there are good shampoos (not expensive ones either) and since switching I don't have a problem with my daughters. Plus at her age, she should be able to brush her own hair. I've had my daughter doing her own for a year (she's now 7)
But don't cut it just bc you're too lazy to tend to it!
I'd cut it, but NOT as short as a pixie cut. Go to the length of a bob (jawline length) At least that way she won't think she looks like a boy.
Find some cute pictures of young girls - celebrities or others with CUTE, pretty, girlish hair cuts. Remember though - sometimes being short doesn't always mean easier unless she'll let you fuss with it and curl it and make it look pretty instead of just SHORT and boyish. When my girls where little and COULDN'T manage their own hair alone having it LONG was easier to me. I could put it up, in a braid, french braids, pony tail, pig tails.... THEN they reached an age when THEY didn't want MOM doing it anymore and I GLAD turned it over to them. THAT was around middle school age (10-11). THEN it was their headache xcept on rare occasions when they ASKED me to fix it special for them.
THEY all (3 girls) eventually cut their pretty long hair thinking they would like it better and it would be easier and NOW they are so upset they did and WISH they had long hair again. Face it - women are never satisfied and always want what we can't have or what we once had.... it's a circular thing I think! : )
I think you shouldn't cut it if she completely DOESN'T WANT IT CUT unless you can convince her by showing her how it COULD LOOK shorter. GIRLS grow up and hold things like this against us as mothers - try and just ENJOY being able to brush it, fuss over her for the short number of years she lets you.... SOON enough she will be a tween and won't even LIKE her parents. JUST my advice
As her mother, I guess you have the right to make her get her hair cut. But I personally would not do it. Her hair is part of her body and her self-image. For some girls, long hair is more than a fashion - it's a part of them. One of my daugthers had hair below her waste from second grade through middle school. I didn't like it because it was often messy and it was very hard to wash and brush. But it was important to her to keep it long, so we let her. Eventually she learned to take care of it herself, and later she got tired of it and got it cut. At 6 years old, your daughter is not far from the age where she could do some of her own hair care. In the meantime, pony tails and braids are a good compromise.
I hate it when people cut their daughters' hair short. If you cut off her pretty hair it would be a cruel thing to do. You're taking away her femininity. What's the big deal if it has a couple tangles anyway? If you wanted a boy, why don't you just shave her head and dress her in boys' clothing? Make her feel unvalued as a girl all together?
